How Do I Approach That “Talk” With My Kids?

Surviving the “sex-talk” with my kids is one of those unique milestones that Brooke and I have landed with each of our kiddos.  As a white father of black children, I have become personally acquainted with what my Black and Hispanic friends humbly call the “other talk.”  That other talk about the racism my children have experienced and will continue experiencing in their lifetimes.  God knitted us together as a family, yet I find myself painfully unequipped and lacking to lead them through these heart-breaking situations. Where do I turn for counsel?

The Bible speaks to this in a direct way.  A guy named Paul speaks of Jesus being “our peace, who made both groups one and tore down the dividing wall of hostility…so that He might create in himself one new man from two, resulting in peace. (Eph. 2:14-15)” For context, the Bible refers to the blatant racism that existed between Jew and non-Jews before Christ’s work.  Understanding that Jesus reconciled us to God and is able to reconcile every nation and tribe together by His love, helps form my family’s grace-response when confronted with racism. God’s love astounds me because it’s not just for me and my kids, it’s for everyone including the folks who have knowingly or unknowingly furthered racial division.  No one is beyond God’s grace!

As a white father of black children, I would ask you to reflect on the simple of idea of Christ’s peace.  How do we become brokers of this peace that Jesus offers to us? It starts simply with receiving God’s peace by acknowledging Jesus as Lord.  When we express faith in Christ, we are released to see others like Jesus sees them…as valuable and precious.  If there is a “call to arms” in this, it is simply to no longer let indifference or anger be our response to the persistent divide in our city and our neighborhoods.  For those that follow Jesus, we have a unique role of being peacemakers with the peace He provides to each of us.  God’s peace be with you today!

Managing Executive Director